This is one of my favorite days of the year! Two years ago today, my oh-so-romantic husband proposed to me. He has truly been a blessing and I can’t thank him enough for all the things he has done, and still does, for me.
We’ve been married for a bit over a year and a half now, and neither of us could be happier. He is my best friend, and I’m sure if you asked him, he’d probably say the same thing about me.
I often see other couples and how apart they seem. In movies, and in real life, the husband is always portrayed as wanting a break from his “nagging” wife and wanting to hang out with the guys, and the wife is always busy with the kids, or work, or whatever else and just “doesn’t have time” for her husband. This is such a heartbreaking portrayal of marriage.
In our marriage, I make it a point to put my husband first. Not just above me, but also above my children. Some may see this as blasphemous, but I think that this is important for marital happiness. Why?
I want my children raised in a home where they see that their parents love and respect each other. By putting him first I show him that he is important to me. He does the same for me. This shows our children how a loving, respectful marriage works. If instead they saw my husband going out with his friends every night and me leaving all the time to hang out with friends, they would get the message that we don’t view our spouse as important. If my children see me turning away from my husband to take care of them, they get the message that he is not important, or that they are the most important in the house (neither of which I want them to think). It is vital to put him first to create a healthy, happy household. In addition, seeing the give and take in our relationship, they will learn that in ALL relationships that there should be a give and take.
I also see putting my husband first as putting my children first. By putting my husband first, it unites us in raising our children. Our children are often called “respectful”, “polite”, and “well-behaved”. When two parents are working together, demonstrating what respect is, children learn from that. You are their role model, and they watch you to see how they should act.
On this Valentine’s day, I’ll be doing what I do everyday: putting my husband first.
Happy Valentine’s day!
Are you doing something special for your spouse today? Answer in the comments below!